"The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us. A first step is starting to know that we have a right to protect and defend ourselves. That we have not only the right, but the duty to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us."
http://joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm
I often refer clients to this site for some guidance.
An issue for men is often around setting boundaries with their ex wife's.
This can very quickly develop into a difficult situation in the current relationship.
There must be clear guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not, if the behaviour gets out of hand it must be handled with delicacy, however overall speed.
If you allow toxic behaviour to continue then you are say I accept it, when you may very well may not.
Sometimes it is not easy to make a good clean break, often separations leave both parties battle scared.
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